One Of The Biggest Secrets To Having It All!

It’s fairly safe to assume that you are reading this because you do not yet have Everything you want.  Does anyone actually get Everything they want? Sure!

Just a quick side note before we continue on: The following blog is written with Work At Home Moms in mind and heart, since that’s what I am, and that’s how I experience the world. However, the basic  theme of this “secret” applies to every human being on the planet!

 

For many of us Work From Home Moms, the quest to “have it all” becomes somewhat amusing to those on the outside. Can you imagine what we must look like, chasing our own tails, going in circles trying to figure out how to multitask raising our kids, doing the housework, making phone calls, running errands, growing our “home” businesses (and ALL that entails!), being a wife (if you have a husband), paying bills, making breakfast, lunch and dinner, and the list goes on! Holy Cow! Does anyone need a nap yet??

We are basically taught by most of what’s on the internet and on TV (not to mention within our own circle of friends and family), that we must find ways to do it all, even if it requires us to forego having any sort of social life, or even taking care of our personal needs. What a load of you know what!

So, without writing a huge long blog of blah blah blah, let me just get to the point and then go from there! One of the biggest secrets to having it all? Not doing it all yourself.

Yep! That’s it!

How and why have we been conditioned to believe that in order to get and have everything we want in life, we must do it all ourselves? Did your parent(s) do it all themselves, so you feel you need to live up to that standard? Get over it! Their life is their life, and you have different needs and desires for your life. It’s also a different time. What happened when your parents were your age is not what’s happening now (for the most part). There is nothing you have to prove to anyone. Having help is nothing to be ashamed of, or shy away from. People love to help, so accept it graciously. You could also help someone else someday!

Is it because many people are financially unable to get outside help? Maybe. But there are always options! There really are. I will write another blog on that issue very soon – to address the options available to those who are in a temporary bind and may not currently be able to afford outsourcing certain activities (whether they be “revenue” producing or “minimum wage” activities).

 

 

 

 

 

The bottom line is, ask for help! There’s nothing wrong with getting help, as there is great pleasure in giving it. Plenty of people are ready and willing to assist you with whatever you need.

Now here comes the Fun part…DREAM BIG! I mean Really Big.  Go crazy with it! We will always regret the things we didn’t do more than the things we did do. So be BOLD with your dreams.  :)

Write it down. What is it that your heart REALLY wants? Writing it down is the first step in clarifying what it is you want, and are expecting to receive. Do it long hand, with a pen and paper, instead of typing it. I’ll explain why in a future blog, just trust this process for now.

The next step is to write Empowering Questions centered around those things you are ready to receive. (Notice I didn’t say ‘want’ to receive….You must be ready for your abundance! The word ‘want’ implies there is a gap between what you have and what you are creating.)

Life is not going to come to you, if you just sit around and complain about what you don’t have, or about all the things you have to do. BE EMPOWERED! Live from a state of Constant Gratitude, and doors will just FLY open for you!

IT IS POSSIBLE TO HAVE IT ALL! NOW!!

 

 

Mommy, Businesswoman, or Both? Should We Have To Choose?

Sitting here trying to work, while my kids are in the tub, is sort of an oxymoron – my kids don’t leave me alone for a second! My 2.5 year old is really good at getting out, and wanting to join me while recording a video.

I wanted to touch really quickly on Mommyhood, and trying to grow your businesses – two things that are beyond “full-time” each in their own right! In the past, I had complained and was stressed about not having enough time to get it all done, but am currently working on a way to make it so there are few or no compromises.

As you will see below, I was not able to record the “professional” video that many bloggers do. However, this is the most RAW version of myself and my situation, so I felt it relevant to this particular blog.

Now, after looking this blog over, I realized there was not really anything to it! It’s almost like a Facebook Notes entry, and that’s not why people read blogs, right? So let’s get a little deeper into what I was trying to say!

My friend Donna Vail has helped me tremendously, with one simple exercise. It’s called “What’s On My Plate?”, and gets you to the point of understanding all you have going on in your life. It also allows you to take some stuff off your own plate, and hand to over to someone else. Remember, you don’t always have to finish everything on your plate. Just make sure you get enough good food, and save room for desert once in a while! Contact Donna Vail directly and ask her about the “meat and potatoes” of this eye-opening exercise, either through her Facebook account, or her website. I would post it here, but I don’t want to step on any toes!

After I took a good honest look at all I was doing (and not doing), it was time to figure out how to get it all done, and what was the priority of each thing. This next phase required some creativity and the ability to consolidate. Long gone are the days of putting each “To Do” item on my list as a separate entry. For example, because my girls are not in daycare, I had to find ways to get certain things done, with their “help”. Dishes, vacuuming, sweeping the floor, picking up toys – all of these things can be done with your kids (for the most part), and can even be made fun. Not only does it help to get everything done while still spending time with my kids, it teaches them real world skills, and shows them that it can also be fun. We dance, sing, chase each other around the house, play against the timer, whatever it takes to get the work done.

When we have to go out and run errands, I try to make that enjoyable as well. I have found pleasure in taking my kids to the grocery store (most of the time), while the other parents there seem put off by our good times! We sing, laugh, and have a great time. My 2.5 year old likes to either ride in the little car (attached to the front of the cart), while her sister is facing me in the seat, or push the kiddie cart by herself. We’ve had some not so fun adventures, but for the most part it’s an enjoyable experience for all of us. Like I said, the other parents there seem sort of out of it, or disconnected from their kids. No wonder they’re all screaming and crying! It’s not a fun experience for any of them. Now don’t get me wrong – I have taken them out at bad times – hunger and nap times need to be factored into the equation, but overall I have been really good about knowing the best times to go. Same thing with the post office, getting gas, doctor visits, and going shopping for other things. I even try to consolidate my running around as much as possible, while also making sure there is something fun for them to do, so it’s not just me dragging them everywhere.

As a stay at home mommy, I have the luxury of doing things with them in the middle of the day if need be. However, there is one area I have found to be the most challenging – WORK. This whole Network Marketing thing is somewhat new to me still. There is an incredibly sharp learning curve and overload of information. Not only is there much to learn, but you’re not always sure who to trust, and what (or who) to spend your money on. FOCUS is a key factor, and something that does not often happen during the day, because of my kids. They are not yet old enough to put in the playroom with some coloring books (or whatever), for an hour by themselves, while I watch a webcast, listen to a recorded call, read through my emails, etc. At this very moment, my 1 year old is taking a nap in her room (though she will be up in a minute), and my 2.5 year old has fallen asleep on the coffee table (long story!). I started this blog early this morning, and it’s now 5:22pm. This has actually been a good, productive day, considering I’m running on 4 hours of sleep! I don’t believe I should have to choose between being a Mommy and being a Successful Businesswoman. For me, being a Mommy and Businesswoman is one and the same!

As I grow personally, I also grow professionally. The more I learn about myself, the more I learn about this business. It’s amazing to me how much information is out there in cyberspace, and how much people charge for it! I will do the best I can to give people the information they need to succeed, without making them have to choose between an Ebook and food.

Like I said before in the video, at the end of the day, it’s all about having FUN! What kinds of things can YOU consolidate and make fun?

Do me a favor, and leave me a comment. I value your input, and would like to know what you think!

Have an AWESOME Sunday night!

Make It Fun And Get It Done!

After the birth of my first daughter, I realized just how unorganized I actually was. Not to mention what a horrible housekeeper! In search of a “better way”, I poured over the internet, and stumbled upon FlyLady (You can also check out her Facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/TheFlyLady).

While I have not purchased the CD’s they have for sale on the site, I do use the idea to add music to my home blessing rituals (formerly known as CHORES!). It’s especially fun when my kids are involved, even though they are kind of young to actually help. I find that my one year old does not really want to help me load the dishwasher as much as take everything out! I even sing with my daughters in the tub or shower while washing their hair. We sing a song that tells them exactly what we are doing. Yo Gabba Gabba has songs like that on their show as well. It teaches steps to doing something in a fun and light hearted way. Why make everything so complicated and boring? Kids like it when stuff is fun and seems like a game. And it’s amazing how the time flies when you’re having FUN!

Making things fun is the way we should try and do most things, especially as adults! Home blessings are just the beginning for me! It has recently been tested on my kids as well – while learning something new – even when music is not involved. Coloring books and Magna Doodles are amazing for teaching a toddler how to read, write, and identify colors, shapes, etc. Playing keep away with crayons and a one year old can also be entertaining….So can being chased around the house with cleaning supplies (while actually stopping for a few seconds to clean of course).

Now how can we use this concept in relationships? Well, first we have to determine what exactly needs to “get done”, then figure out how to make it FUN! As far as marriage relationships are concerned, keeping things fresh is important. Also, getting to know your spouse better and on deeper levels is important as well. I don’t care how many years you’ve been together, things change, people change, and there is always something to learn about them! Board games, card games, and even dancing or singing in a karaoke place can open us up to discovering more about each other – and even ourselves. Laughter is awesome at breaking down walls, as well as a great stress reliever. These fun activities can also be used with family, friends, and business associates.

Ahhhh, Business Fun! It matters very little if you work in or outside the home. If you are in Corporate America, you’ll notice that many companies have fun stuff in place for their employees in one form or another. If you run your own business, think about how you introduce new people to the opportunity, and forever after. Are you showing them your goods with enthusiasm and humor? Or are you like a zombie? It makes a big difference! Who would want to join you if it was no fun? People are attracted to FUN opportunities and FUN people!!!

So the next time you are faced with something that doesn’t seem like much fun, think of a way to MAKE IT SO!

**Of course not everything in life is a joke, or should be made fun. There are things that will not be “a good time”, like funerals.

Now go out there and HAVE SOME FUN while getting it DONE!!!

How To LOVE Your Life

Live With What You Love – and Get Rid of the Rest!

Country Home Magazine’s February 2009 issue had this statement on their cover. It had an immediate impact on me, and I knew I had to write about it! While the article related to home decorating, my mind went in a million different directions!

This simple statement can be applied to every area of your life, no matter what it is.

Think about it for a minute. Are you currently Living With What You Love?

Look around the room you are in right now. Are you surrounded by junk, trash, or beautiful, useful things?

Look around the place you live, inside and out. Just take a nice walk around, and notice what you have collected! Do these things serve a purpose? Are these items you have collected and held onto being Loved? Are they Loving you? What do you have packed away that have not seen the light of day in so long, you no longer remember what is in those boxes?

Now move to your work area – whether you are a work at home mom, or a work outside the home mom, it doesn’t matter. Ask yourself the same questions from above.

Check out your car(s) and what is inside. Trash on the floor? Baby/kid toys, books, etc all over? When is the last time you vacuumed in there? Got it washed?

These next two are REALLY FUN!

Look at yourself in a full length mirror (if you dare)….Do you LOVE what you see right now? Remember, Live With What You Love and Get Rid of the Rest. When I did this recently, I was not impressed, let me tell you! I was at my Hot Yoga class and thought I looked like a contestant on the “Biggest Loser”! While I can stand to lose a few pounds, the way I was dressed made things look worse than they really are (I hope!). So, my clothing choice was not very Loving. Out they went! As for how your body looks when you are naked, make a list of the things you want to change. Then circle the things you CAN change. Work on being more Loving to those places. It may require dietary changes, some exercise, or just some daily fresh air and water. Rest is a big one for me, and I am more Loving to my body when I give it some. As for the parts of your physical body that you cannot change, practice Loving those areas, by accepting them.

*As a sidenote, my husband and I both decided that we will start the Shaun T. Insanity workout as soon as we get it in the mail! I will post before and after pics, in the hopes it may inspire others to do the same!

Moving on….

Clothing, shoes, accessories, hair and make up can also use an overhaul. Take a good look at everything you have in those areas, and make the changes necessary to become the best YOU possible. If it no longer fits, give it away, sell it to a consignment shop, or trash it! Make up – if it’s old or outdated, throw it out! Hair – big one for us ladies – don’t feel you have to be all dramatic and drastic with your changes here. Sometimes all you need is a nice trim to make you feel lighter and more energized with your life.

Another part of really looking at yourself includes your insides. What I mean is, how are you emotionally? Spiritually? This one can take some time to discover the Truth about. We tend to overlook the act of really Loving ourselves. Where do your thoughts take you all day and all night? A resource I have found incredibly useful in transforming my thoughts, has been the use of NLP. Neuro Linguistic Programing was introduced to me a while ago, but not used until I started sessions with my Life Coach. It’s amazing the things we say to ourselves, as well as others. Check out anything by Tony Robbins, and you’ll see that this is what he uses. “Thoughts Are Things” is the truth! What are you putting out there with your thoughts and words? To yourself and others? Are your thoughts and words Loving? If you have to wonder, the answer is probably “yes”. A quick test is to look at what you’re getting in return. Love out, Love in. Some people also find it helpful to pray or meditate. Whatever feels right for you, DO IT!

Saving the best for last….Drumroll please!

Relationships! Whatever order you make these observations and changes in, nothing will change your life as much as your relationships. I have found that with making changes to all of the above items, ironically, my relationships with others changed. Why? The Law of Attraction Baby! When you declutter your surroundings as well as your own mind, your relationships get clearer and less cluttered as well. Remember, we only want to Live With What We Love! This applies to your romantic relationships, family relationships, friendships, work relationships, and everyone else in the mix! So refuse to shortchange yourself and the quality of your life by holding on to a relationship or connection that is no longer serving either of you.

Obviously, this process will be deeper than it reads, and I will be posting more about it soon. Until then, start with the basics, and Grow from there.

Until Next Time!