The Truth Behind Affirmations (and Why It’s More Than Just Wishful Thinking)

Affirmations – ACTION = Wishful Thinking.

When you write an affirmation, the intention behind it is to get an end result. We all know that to get from point A to point B, you must MOVE. That’s why ACTION is required in addition to writing and saying daily affirmations.

Affirmations serve as a roadmap, or mental GPS of where you want to be. You can plan it out all you want, but without action or motion of some sort, you will never get there. Think of taking business trips or vacations – they need to be planned out before you even get started.

Lets begin with your affirmations – just one for now. Make it a specific affirmation. Too many people write something like “I will be rich”. When you are as specific as possible, it’s easier to create an ACTION plan to get there! “Financial Freedom” can be expanded to include reasons why that is important. “I easily create the funds necessary to afford a fantastic vacation with my family”. From that point, think backwards, and start mapping how you arrived there! Where will you go? How much will it cost? Who do you know that can help you? What must you do to get the funds to go on vacation? Are there things you need to do (like save money, work overtime, call in a favor, or trade/barter with someone)? When you start with a plan in mind, moving forward is much easier, and actually sets in motion “miracles” from the Universe! Opportunities seem to “appear” out of nowhere!

Use photos, magazine clippings, or your computer, to create a dream board (sometimes referred to as a vision board) to keep these desires and affirmations fresh in your mind. Just make sure to do this when you are in a creating frame of mind, and not one of loss or want (*your energy gets infused into the pictures you cut out and words you are writing, and can undermine what you are trying to achieve!).

So, before you do anything else, close your eyes, and take a few deep breaths. Clear your mind, and focus on the feeling you will have when you achieve your goals. Feel it, smell it, see it within your mind. If you have a mental picture of an entire scenario, pick one spot or time frame (like a mental snapshot), and focus ONLY on that. We are trying to get as detailed as possible, so we can start small with the affirmations, in order to draw a specific roadmap. This will help you to take ACTION in the right direction! Once you have done this a handful of times, you will be able to create larger goals with multiple details. What we’re trying to do here, is get laser focused, so we can achieve our dream goal in a shorter amount of time, then move on to the next piece of the puzzle.

That’s a good way to think of it too – like a big puzzle. We are just trying to accomplish putting one piece down at a time. But like I said before, once you have done this a few times, you will be able to put a bunch of pieces down at a time! One day very soon, my friends, you will BE the big picture you have dreamed about.

Let’s not waste our time just writing down Affirmations without Action. No more Wishful Thinking!

DREAM BIG!! Then take it one step at a time.

“It is not enough just to meditate and pray, which are always good things to do, but we also must take positive action in this world.” His Holiness the Dalai Lama

How I Made The Universe Give Me More!

Do you ever see money on the ground (in any denomination) and just leave it there? Why?  Are you embarrassed to pick it up if you think others are watching?

All my life I have been finding money, not just on the ground, but in different places. Not too many times did I walk by and leave it there, but I did do it.

Sometime last year, I started putting that “found” money into my car ashtray. Each time I picked up a coin or dollar bill, I said Thank You and smiled. It has grown to the point that I have had to transfer all of those gifts into a container! So I decided to label a jar “Smiles From the Universe”, and start putting what I found in there. Now it seems every day that I go out into the world, to run errands, play with my kids, whatever, I find something. Even finding just pennies adds up when you find them all the time!

The point is, never turn your back or refuse a gift from the Universe. If you don’t accept them, someone else will.

I’m Pregnant And Ready To Burst! Epidural Please!

Since this site is designed with Mommies in mind, I’m assuming most of you have had at least one child.

Having been pregnant myself, two other times (in the past 3 years), I don’t have to tell you what an amazing, scary, incredible, crazy, funny, sick, confusing, and unreal time  it can be.

There are so many things going on that you have no control over, and yet, everything you do matters.

The same is true when you own your own business, or have branded yourself, and are promoting yourself as well as other people/things.

The same is true when you have your own business. Even now, my heart and mind are racing with an overflowing amount of ideas and Universal energy! I feel as though I could give birth to these things at any moment! As with human births, there is a period of labor when working on growing your business. HARD labor (for most).

When I was in labor with both my daughters, I had an epidural at some point. You can have what could be considered an epidural in business as well! The name of this wonder drug? “MENTOR”.

It’s amazing what having a MENTOR can do for you! You can virtually eliminate the pain and struggle of giving birth to your business! So, how does it work? Having a mentor means you can bypass some of the biggest mistakes that someone without one might make. With the world literally at your fingertips, you would think having an online business would be simple, or at least easier. Wrong! With so much information out there – most of which can brake the bank before you even get any momentum – there have to be people you can trust to show you how it’s done. To show you how THEY did it!

Even though there are “Tribes” popping up all over the place, you still need one or two people to be one on one with you. That personal accountability and friendship is incredibly important when you’re getting your feet wet.

And don’t forget to return the favor! Pay it forward, and backward! Give to those who helped you get started, and keep you going. How do you do that? Subscribe to their blogs and share with the world! This is all about reciprocation and appreciation.

Also give to those who are just starting out, like you were. Show them the path that was laid out before you. Everyone will have different challenges and goals, but the basics are the same, and your support is invaluable.

Let’s take care of each other! Let’s share AND GROW the wealth!

PS – Just so my husband doesn’t freak out, I’m not pregnant with a human child! It’s just business honey!

Let’s Get Naked! (Part 1)

Why must we feel the need to “cover” ourselves with the lies we have been told?

Authenticity should not take that much work, yet it seems to be one of the most difficult things to do, for most people.

Do you even know who the real you is? Probably not 100%. You may have parts of you that are real, but in general, you are a product of what you have been told, taught, seen, heard, and experienced. The foundation for your very own belief system about life was set in place before you were 8 years old.

Like peeling the layers of an onion, change will bring tears to some of us, because we have been holding back our TRUE selves. That is, the part of us that has not been tarnished or abused by events and people in our past. That part is our Spirit – our very essence. That is the stuff that will never change, no matter what. You might call it your God self, your Soul, Universal energy, Light, or Spirit. Name it whatever feels good to you (maybe depending on your childhood programming??), but it’s the same for everyone.

We are all guilty of putting on masks and costumes at one point or another. It’s time we stopped doing that, and really begin to discover what it is we are here for! It does not serve the world to be anything but yourself. You have yet to uncover the many gifts and talents you have, because the real YOU is stuck under all this other stuff!

So Let’s Get Naked!

Be open to the possibility that you are so much more than you think and do. Stop talking for 5 minutes and just look around. Do you feel how you are connected to other people? The next time you are in a grocery store, or somewhere else running errands, don’t be in a hurry. Stand or walk slowly in silence. Look around you, at others. Feel them. Try to tap into who they may be. How are you connected to them? You don’t have to stare – and please don’t! But take a deep breath, remember that you are not alone in this world, and that your authenticity will allow others to be themselves as well.

Here’s the catch….

As I started on my own journey of self discovery and authenticity, some people in my “circle” or “Tribe”, didn’t fit anymore. They thought I was out there, or going through some phase. Because they are living their own lies about life and who they are, we no longer shared the same energy. Imagine you are playing a song that is your true self. Not everyone likes the same music, so what do you do? Change the station! If how I am living my life is like listening to Smashing Pumpkins, I’m going to attract others who like the same. Now, when I change the station, and start listening to Black Eyed Peas, what do you think is going to happen? That’s right! I will lose a lot of my Smashing Pumpkins friends because we are no longer listening to the same music. And that’s OK.

Another example of how our circles or Tribes may change (whether or not we are actually growing into our true selves), is when we get married, or become parents. Somehow, when I got married, I attracted other married people, and lost some of my single friends. Then when I became a Mommy, I lost some of my childless friends, but gained some new Mommy friends. Coincidence? You attract MORE of what you are, it’s just the law of attraction! Apply this thought to your relationship with money as well, and see what the result is….

A while back, I deleted all the Facebook “friends” I didn’t really have a relationship with. It’s almost as if we were just hanging out online, but not really doing anything. Our friendships were not based on common things. After that was done, I started looking around for people I admired, people I wanted to be friends with. Friending Up is what it’s referred to.

Look at the 5 people you hang around the most. That is your immediate circle or Tribe, and will influence many things about you. For me, it’s my 2 kids because I’m a stay at home mom. Yikes! This Mommy needs to get out more! I found this thought about our circle to be so true, when I noticed I was just as whiny as my kids. Some days they even stayed in their pajamas (if we weren’t going anywhere), and SO DID I!! Oh No! You can see where that would not be good for business!

Speaking of Business….

What a great place to be authentic! Especially if you want to attract people who are going to be honest and fair with you. You need to lead by example, and be honest and fair with yourself and then others. Notice I said yourself and then others. The attraction starts with you. Don’t be afraid to be yourself. You need to figure out who you are before you can attract more of what you want.

“So how do I figure out who I really am? How do I become authentic?”

Stay tuned….