Is Timing Important When You Twitter, Facebook, etc.?

I have spent several mornings, evenings (and times in between including the middle of the night), checking the differences in the posts during those hours. Have you noticed when certain people tend to post the most? Depending on who you’re following, this could be important information! Especially if you’re trying to get traffic to your blogs, by posts or comments.

This is something you should consider when first starting out, so you don’t get lost in the shuffle of blog traffic, when trying to get noticed. Of course, depending on your content value, this may not apply to you. It may also help if you belong to a “Tribe” or two.

Try it – see if you get more “action” when you post at specific times.

Is Facebook Growing or Hurting Your Business?

Facebook. How many “Friends” do you have? Do you have a Fan Page?

As a Stay At Home Mommy (or a Work From Home Mommy), Facebook has been a wonderful connection tool for me. My family lives 2500 miles away, as do some of my friends (on FB or not), and it’s nice to get instant updates on what they’re doing and pictures of their adventures. My husband and I have two businesses (aside from his full time job and my mommyhood), and I have found that at times, Facebook has been sort of a vampire. I’ve been on it so much recently, I might as well make it my Home Page! I admit, I have been sucked in (and sucked dry) by the very thing that makes it desirable – instant gratification and voyeurism (I’ll talk about that last one in a minute!).

Too much information at your fingertips can be deadly – or at the very least, distracting! If you’re going to be using it for “growing your following”, then don’t use it to keep up with close friends and family, and visa versa, unless you can control your urge to know it all! My Friends list only contains those I actually want to keep up with regularly, and not everyone who has sent a request. Who are all these people who want to be my “Friend”? Now don’t flood my inbox and tell me that without adding everyone who sends me a request, I’m missing out on potential business! I’m not in a race to see who can have the most friends, and not everyone is going to do business with me. Besides, most of the Friend requests I get are from people who saw me on someone else’s list and not because of what I am offering. My Facebook profile is still set to private, so it’s not that they liked what they saw, and just had to be friends! I have a Fan Page set up just for business, though, and intend to transfer some of my personal page friends to that one instead, since they are business associates more than friends.

If you’re serious about Facebook as a source for business contacts, for Pete’s sake (whoever he is), don’t play video games! Yes, I know Farmville and all of those other games are appealing and fun to play. But if you’re doing that, who’s growing your business? “But I need a break once in awhile” is not a good excuse! If you need one that bad, go outside, play with your kids, read a good book, anything other than FB games!! By the way, in case you didn’t already know, your friends know you’re playing….and that probably doesn’t look good for business unless you’re a gamer!

Now, about voyeurism on Facebook. I have had several people look me up (and I have done the same in the past) for the purpose of catching up, only to find that there is no real connection there. High School acquaintances, old work friends, you get the picture. However, if these people have no interest in real friendships, I delete them. Seriously! Over the last 6 months I have lost approximately 3000 pounds that way! Like I said before, I’m not trying to win points by having the most friends. If you are interested in creating business contacts….do what the phrase says: business CONTACTS. You have to talk to your Tribe once in a while! Not just as a group, with status updates and aweber emails. Real relationships are formed (and become lasting) when you have one on one time with people. If you’re only interested in what they can do for you, then you’re not really in this for something special. I’m not trying to get anything out of you except the truth. The truth about yourself, about what you want. My goal is to give you what you want, or at least help you get it.

The problem I have found with looking up everyones status and updates on Facebook – I have too many friends to keep up with every day! When I log in first thing in the morning, it says “Most Recent 300+”. That means there are over 300 new updates from my Friends! Sorry, but I can’t possibly read through ALL of them if I have any hope of getting work done – not to mention spend some time taking care of my house and kids! I have tried that in the past – reading through them all – only to find I missed something anyway. So every day I check out just a few of my friends pages for updates and info, and to leave a message of my own.  As long as I keep rotating everyone, I cover more ground that way, and can focus on each relationship. When you just read the News Feed, it’s almost like having a “Drive-Thru” relationship with people who deserve your time and attention. Besides, how are you supposed to build real genuine relationships that way? Isn’t it a bit like speed dating? If you’re doing the socializing for business, you may grow a following in numbers, but no one is really interested in doing business with you for the long haul. But that’s just my personal opinion, so please feel free to disagree.

If you’re looking to grow a current business, or are just starting out, Facebook can be a great place to network. Just make sure you know the rules – and bend the appropriate ones!  Treat Facebook like a commercial for your business – it’s how people get to know you. If you are always playing games, and/or not forming real relationships, why would they want to work with you?

I have actually been contemplating canceling my Facebook pages, and focusing only on personal email and this site (plus word of mouth with my other businesses, of course).

**Do me a favor, and let me know what you think about dropping Facebook. I’m interested to know what else is out there, and what everyone is interested in using.

In the meantime, check out your “Friends” list, and see if you could lose a few pounds somewhere!

The Unified Tribe – Are You In?

Have you joined up yet, and taken your place at the table of Wealth and Success?

Take a moment and do it NOW! The official launch is tomorrow, April 28th.

The Unified Tribe

What I LOVE about Katie Freiling is her authenticity. She is a great motivator, trustworthy, and easy to follow (and duplicate). She is the kind of person you can be friends with in an instant, and know she would do just about anything for you!

Look what she has done already with her videos and her own Manifesto. For someone to give away all their “goods”, it’s rare my friends! But it’s becoming more common, and shows us that there IS NO LIMIT! Scarcity is a LIE! The more you give, the more you are free to receive.

I have already signed up! This blog helps me get the message out there to all of you who’s phone number I do not have! Spread the word, share the wealth…There IS enough!

To Our Success and Freedom!

Let’s Get Naked! (Part 1)

Why must we feel the need to “cover” ourselves with the lies we have been told?

Authenticity should not take that much work, yet it seems to be one of the most difficult things to do, for most people.

Do you even know who the real you is? Probably not 100%. You may have parts of you that are real, but in general, you are a product of what you have been told, taught, seen, heard, and experienced. The foundation for your very own belief system about life was set in place before you were 8 years old.

Like peeling the layers of an onion, change will bring tears to some of us, because we have been holding back our TRUE selves. That is, the part of us that has not been tarnished or abused by events and people in our past. That part is our Spirit – our very essence. That is the stuff that will never change, no matter what. You might call it your God self, your Soul, Universal energy, Light, or Spirit. Name it whatever feels good to you (maybe depending on your childhood programming??), but it’s the same for everyone.

We are all guilty of putting on masks and costumes at one point or another. It’s time we stopped doing that, and really begin to discover what it is we are here for! It does not serve the world to be anything but yourself. You have yet to uncover the many gifts and talents you have, because the real YOU is stuck under all this other stuff!

So Let’s Get Naked!

Be open to the possibility that you are so much more than you think and do. Stop talking for 5 minutes and just look around. Do you feel how you are connected to other people? The next time you are in a grocery store, or somewhere else running errands, don’t be in a hurry. Stand or walk slowly in silence. Look around you, at others. Feel them. Try to tap into who they may be. How are you connected to them? You don’t have to stare – and please don’t! But take a deep breath, remember that you are not alone in this world, and that your authenticity will allow others to be themselves as well.

Here’s the catch….

As I started on my own journey of self discovery and authenticity, some people in my “circle” or “Tribe”, didn’t fit anymore. They thought I was out there, or going through some phase. Because they are living their own lies about life and who they are, we no longer shared the same energy. Imagine you are playing a song that is your true self. Not everyone likes the same music, so what do you do? Change the station! If how I am living my life is like listening to Smashing Pumpkins, I’m going to attract others who like the same. Now, when I change the station, and start listening to Black Eyed Peas, what do you think is going to happen? That’s right! I will lose a lot of my Smashing Pumpkins friends because we are no longer listening to the same music. And that’s OK.

Another example of how our circles or Tribes may change (whether or not we are actually growing into our true selves), is when we get married, or become parents. Somehow, when I got married, I attracted other married people, and lost some of my single friends. Then when I became a Mommy, I lost some of my childless friends, but gained some new Mommy friends. Coincidence? You attract MORE of what you are, it’s just the law of attraction! Apply this thought to your relationship with money as well, and see what the result is….

A while back, I deleted all the Facebook “friends” I didn’t really have a relationship with. It’s almost as if we were just hanging out online, but not really doing anything. Our friendships were not based on common things. After that was done, I started looking around for people I admired, people I wanted to be friends with. Friending Up is what it’s referred to.

Look at the 5 people you hang around the most. That is your immediate circle or Tribe, and will influence many things about you. For me, it’s my 2 kids because I’m a stay at home mom. Yikes! This Mommy needs to get out more! I found this thought about our circle to be so true, when I noticed I was just as whiny as my kids. Some days they even stayed in their pajamas (if we weren’t going anywhere), and SO DID I!! Oh No! You can see where that would not be good for business!

Speaking of Business….

What a great place to be authentic! Especially if you want to attract people who are going to be honest and fair with you. You need to lead by example, and be honest and fair with yourself and then others. Notice I said yourself and then others. The attraction starts with you. Don’t be afraid to be yourself. You need to figure out who you are before you can attract more of what you want.

“So how do I figure out who I really am? How do I become authentic?”

Stay tuned….