How To Find Your “Gift”

“What are my talents or gifts?”

“What do I have that I can give back to the world?”

“Why am I here?”

“What can I do that will make me money?”

Those are all very important questions, yet most people are not sure how to find the answers. “What can I do that will make me money?” also tends to be the first, if not the ONLY question many people ask themselves. To tell you the truth, if you’re honestly living your passion, it won’t matter if you’re “making money” at it, or not. It just so happens that those who are true to themselves, and are using their talents and gifts, can actually make a good amount of money!

In order to get the answers you need, you must first ask the right questions.

So, how do you know what to ask NOW? You may have heard about a little thing called “Personal Development”. What you read, watch, listen to, and participate in, has everything to do with your evolution – personally and professionally. When you start to get outside your own mind, and take in the thoughts of great leaders and spiritual representatives, the better questions start coming to you easily. And so do the answers…

Another method I found effective in my own quest for “answers” and direction – going back to the beginning. What did I enjoy as a child? What was I told I would be good at? What am I naturally good at NOW? What am I doing when I lose all track of time? These types of questions can give you some of the answers, or at least some direction. Now if your favorite past time is playing video games all hours, that doesn’t mean that’s what you’re supposed to be doing! So look at it with a list of pros and cons: skills needed to excel (depending on the game, you may need to be analytical or have great hand-eye coordination); time management may be a con…..

The bottom line is this – to get the best answers to your deepest hearts desires, you must improve your questions.

Here are some resources for more guidance and support on your journey:

Niurkainc.com

www.kimlifecoach.com

www.crystalandrus.com

**Just so you’re aware, I do not make any money by referring you. It is done out of love and respect for you and for the process. Your success and happiness in this world is important to me!**

Please feel free to share this information with everyone you know and love.

Congratulations on beginning your new chapter in life!

Please leave me a comment, or contact me with your progress and any questions you may have.

Why You Should “Get Fit Or Get Out!”

I noticed this quote on the wall behind the INSANITY team, during the workout this morning.

“GET FIT OR GET OUT!”

While this may be applied to the workout itself, I immediately started thinking that it could also be used in the business arena (as well everything else in life)!

Anyone who has any HOPE of growing and enjoying a successful business, needs to work on Personal Development. That’s the GET FIT part. (The GET OUT part is obviously if you don’t do it – and YOUR choice!)

So, how do your GET FIT? Just like going to the gym, or doing any exercise routine, you have to push yourself a little more every day to be a better version of yourself. When you do this to grow yourself personally and professionally, it requires that you stretch your MIND as well. My Life Coach Kim Somers says ” Always ask yourself, Am I moving forward positively or backward negatively in my life? If backward, take steps daily to move the better way. Little tiny life changes goes a long way.” Notice she said STEPS. You’re not required to make these gigantic leaps toward your goals, but it is necessary to take STEPS in a positive direction.

Positive steps include:

Better nutrition choices

Getting daily exercise

Reading books written by those you admire and are where you want to be

Attending workshops

Taking vacations (you DO need to relax and recharge your batteries once in a while!)

Tell the truth (it’s amazing how many little lies you tell yourself and others daily)

Make an effort to dress nicely everyday (a big one for me when I had my first daughter)

SMILE!!!

Learn something about the business you are in

Now, obviously this list could go on forever, but I’m sure you get the point. With every decision, no matter the size, you must decide if it’s going to get you where you want to be, or keep you from it. That’s how and why you GET FIT.

In regards to business, if you’re not going to do what it takes to be the BEST at what you do, you might as well GET OUT!!!

Why do anything, if you’re not going to give it all you’ve got?

**By the way, when YOU start giving your all in a positive direction, you WILL attract those who are willing to do the same. Now, how will THAT change your life?

How To LOVE Your Life

Live With What You Love – and Get Rid of the Rest!

Country Home Magazine’s February 2009 issue had this statement on their cover. It had an immediate impact on me, and I knew I had to write about it! While the article related to home decorating, my mind went in a million different directions!

This simple statement can be applied to every area of your life, no matter what it is.

Think about it for a minute. Are you currently Living With What You Love?

Look around the room you are in right now. Are you surrounded by junk, trash, or beautiful, useful things?

Look around the place you live, inside and out. Just take a nice walk around, and notice what you have collected! Do these things serve a purpose? Are these items you have collected and held onto being Loved? Are they Loving you? What do you have packed away that have not seen the light of day in so long, you no longer remember what is in those boxes?

Now move to your work area – whether you are a work at home mom, or a work outside the home mom, it doesn’t matter. Ask yourself the same questions from above.

Check out your car(s) and what is inside. Trash on the floor? Baby/kid toys, books, etc all over? When is the last time you vacuumed in there? Got it washed?

These next two are REALLY FUN!

Look at yourself in a full length mirror (if you dare)….Do you LOVE what you see right now? Remember, Live With What You Love and Get Rid of the Rest. When I did this recently, I was not impressed, let me tell you! I was at my Hot Yoga class and thought I looked like a contestant on the “Biggest Loser”! While I can stand to lose a few pounds, the way I was dressed made things look worse than they really are (I hope!). So, my clothing choice was not very Loving. Out they went! As for how your body looks when you are naked, make a list of the things you want to change. Then circle the things you CAN change. Work on being more Loving to those places. It may require dietary changes, some exercise, or just some daily fresh air and water. Rest is a big one for me, and I am more Loving to my body when I give it some. As for the parts of your physical body that you cannot change, practice Loving those areas, by accepting them.

*As a sidenote, my husband and I both decided that we will start the Shaun T. Insanity workout as soon as we get it in the mail! I will post before and after pics, in the hopes it may inspire others to do the same!

Moving on….

Clothing, shoes, accessories, hair and make up can also use an overhaul. Take a good look at everything you have in those areas, and make the changes necessary to become the best YOU possible. If it no longer fits, give it away, sell it to a consignment shop, or trash it! Make up – if it’s old or outdated, throw it out! Hair – big one for us ladies – don’t feel you have to be all dramatic and drastic with your changes here. Sometimes all you need is a nice trim to make you feel lighter and more energized with your life.

Another part of really looking at yourself includes your insides. What I mean is, how are you emotionally? Spiritually? This one can take some time to discover the Truth about. We tend to overlook the act of really Loving ourselves. Where do your thoughts take you all day and all night? A resource I have found incredibly useful in transforming my thoughts, has been the use of NLP. Neuro Linguistic Programing was introduced to me a while ago, but not used until I started sessions with my Life Coach. It’s amazing the things we say to ourselves, as well as others. Check out anything by Tony Robbins, and you’ll see that this is what he uses. “Thoughts Are Things” is the truth! What are you putting out there with your thoughts and words? To yourself and others? Are your thoughts and words Loving? If you have to wonder, the answer is probably “yes”. A quick test is to look at what you’re getting in return. Love out, Love in. Some people also find it helpful to pray or meditate. Whatever feels right for you, DO IT!

Saving the best for last….Drumroll please!

Relationships! Whatever order you make these observations and changes in, nothing will change your life as much as your relationships. I have found that with making changes to all of the above items, ironically, my relationships with others changed. Why? The Law of Attraction Baby! When you declutter your surroundings as well as your own mind, your relationships get clearer and less cluttered as well. Remember, we only want to Live With What We Love! This applies to your romantic relationships, family relationships, friendships, work relationships, and everyone else in the mix! So refuse to shortchange yourself and the quality of your life by holding on to a relationship or connection that is no longer serving either of you.

Obviously, this process will be deeper than it reads, and I will be posting more about it soon. Until then, start with the basics, and Grow from there.

Until Next Time!

Why I Hired A Life Coach…

Kim Somers is not just a Life Coach. She is one of the most fulfilled people I know! Anyone who is happy with their life, and gives it a 10 (on a scale of 1-10), can certainly give me some direction!

Now let me be clear on this: Everyone you meet can influence your behavior, your perspective, your experiences. The same holds true for the people who meet YOU – you have the ability to influence those you meet. Remember the commercial where one person saw another person helping someone, then they went out and helped someone else, and the chain kept going? It’s kind of like that. The difference with a life Coach is that they have a specific set of tools used to motivate your behavior, as well as your thought process, in order to help you toward your goals. They are not here to tell you what to do, but will instead, lead you through a path of SELF discovery (well, the good ones do anyway!). An outsider can tell you things they see about you and your situations, that you may not otherwise have had perspective on. With all the different aspects of our lives running at once, it’s easy to get them muddled up and confused with one another.

My life, as an example, was just one long day of “Mommy!”, Spongebob, what’s for breakfast, laundry, dishes, phone calls, diapers, nap times, dogs, Kai-Lan, don’t jump on that, stop hitting your sister, bath time, potty training, errands, vacuuming, put your clothes back on, what’s the matter, stop touching mommy’s computer, check email, check Facebook, who’s going to the meeting, where is my phone, who’s birthday is it, grocery store, what are we having for lunch, brush your teeth….Seriously, the list goes on!

What she has done for me in just 2 phone calls is nothing short of a miracle! It does take a willingness to be open and honest with yourself. It also takes the ability to take in to consideration the other persons impressions about you – good or not so. Homework is sometimes required, as is changing your daily schedule (not just for the phone calls or face to face sessions), and just the way you do some things in general.

The trick is to find someone with interests like your own, so that the things they suggest are not far out of your character. The closer they are to the personality that you DESIRE OR YOURSELF, the more likely you will be to mimic what they do and say, and you will find yourself making any changes suggested easily.

This is also true of anything in life – when there is something you want, find someone who has it (or something similar), and do what they do to get it! I would like to be a well rounded, happy, fulfilled mommy, wife and entrepreneur (and Spiritualpreneur), therefore, I found someone with those things, and I am doing what is necessary to achieve that.

There is nothing wrong with seeking outside help. Too many people are proud and don’t want to be honest with themselves about their lack of direction and fulfillment. Maybe money is an issue – that can usually be worked out if you have found the perfect coach. Don’t let anything stop you from achieving your greatest potential! Find that perfect person (or people) to help you on your path to greatness. Then…

RETURN THE FAVOR!

Once you have been placed gently on your path, help others do the same. You don’t have to be a pro yourself, but help others reach their goals, even small ones. Do what you can with what you have!

Like I said before, she has helped me so much just by talking and giving me things to think about and work on. It’s a process.

Take the first step….