A while ago I met a wonderful healer on Facebook. We share some of the same interests and I thought we could have some great conversations, compare notes, and maybe grow our tool chests a bit where business is concerned.
Coming from a background in NLP, I had recently begun studying EFT and fell in love using both at the same time (along with other methods), to better serve my coaching clients, as well as work out some of my own blocks. For those of you who have no idea what I’m referring to, please click on the terms to be shown an explanation! Also check out some of the YouTube videos available in these fields as well, since there is an abundance of information out there.
I believe there may be times, for some people (as a practitioner of NLP, EFT, and any other number of paths to healing), you can know too much for your own healing. Much like a doctor trying to do surgery on him/herself. Your subconscious mind knows where you’re going with something, and there is the possibility you won’t actually get to the root cause of an issue. When you know a ball is being thrown at you, you duck, right? (If you don’t, then there are some issues we can work on!) The same may be true when dealing with psychological and emotional work. If you know the questions that are going to be asked, or the “process and procedure”, how do you know your answers are the truth?
I enlisted the help of my awesome Facebook friend, Nathan Martin, for this very reason. We had an initial Skype conversation that lasted about 2 hours, just talking and getting to know each other. We then scheduled a 2 hour block of time the following week, so we could work on each other – a sort of professional time trade. What happened that day will stay with me for a long time to come.
Our “mutual sessions” were not textbook by any means. And thank God, because I may have not had the shift I did! Nathan has a special way about him – a very approachable, honest, endearing personality – that would melt the coldest of souls. You get the sense that he genuinely cares about you – whether you are a client or his best friend. I wondered if our rapport on a personal level would somehow blur the “professional” session we were about to have. As it turned out, it was the best thing that could have ever happened!
While there were moments when we “got down to business”, the real work took place in seemingly passive conversation. And then it hit me. I realized just how important it is to have authentic rapport with someone when doing healing work (as well as any other interaction). It’s less about how many tools of the trade you’ve studied, and more about how you have integrated compassion and genuine interest within yourself, your work on this planet, and in your relationships. That’s not to say that you have to be best friends with everyone you come into contact with, but it is important to treat them with the same respect, care and concern, as if.
With NLP there is a script you can follow to elicit specific information. But how deep you get relies on your ability to have rapport with that person. And Change? Forget lasting change based on words alone! We are emotional beings, and relationships are CORE to whatever you are doing. That’s why you can change someone’s State based on Trust alone and not a script.
It’s been 48 hours since the end of our last Skype conversation, and I can not tell you how many intense breakthrough’s I have had so far! It feels like there are still some lingering as well, and I know they will pop when the timing is right. :)
So, Thank you Nathan! Within our friendship there have been many gifts revealed! Thank you, thank you, thank you, for BEing the change in the world.
If anyone feels the desire for a better life, amazing shifts, and to break free from whatever has held you back up until now, friend Nathan on Facebook and check out his site http://freewitheft.com/ for great articles and his contact info. This kind of healing applies to every are of your life – work, external relationships, and anything else you could possibly need. Set up a session today!
XOXO
